either one or both?

I wonder what proportion of us guys practicing chastity show submissiveness, and how many of those are in a basically ordinary relationship outside of that? I fall into the second group. Even though my wife keeps the key and all the associated control, we remain quite normal in other areas. She dictates when and how frequently I achieve orgasm, but otherwise, we are a standard couple without extra drama. There is no BDSM involved, only the chastity part of our dynamic, which suits us both well. What do you think?