bratty_but_trying Newcomer Thread starter I have realised I top from the bottom a lot. I hand my partner control and then hint, steer, and basically direct how she uses it. She has gently pointed it out and she is right.
But when I try to stop, I swing the other way and go completely silent, which is not helpful either. How do you actually let go and still give your keyholder the feedback they need? Where is the line between genuine input and just running the show from underneath?
