Three years of this and last week she said she does not want to do it any more. Not the relationship, just this. She was kind about it, she said it has stopped doing anything for her and she has been forcing it for a while.
I said all the right things and I meant them. Then I spent the weekend feeling like something had been taken away, and I am now worried that my mood is doing the arguing I promised not to do.
How do you actually accept this without becoming a sulk that she has to manage?