The concept of chastity is fresh to me, but looking back at my emotions, it was evident that the desire was dormant, if not repressed—the longing to be completely possessed and dedicated solely to one woman, and to show her that. What’s peculiar is that by most outward standards I’d be seen as an Alpha Male, which might explain where the internal conflict comes from in how I process things.
I recently wed a powerful Alpha-type woman who has let me explore these aspects much more deeply than I ever expected. It began with my submitting to her leadership style for resolving disputes. This provided structure for my thoughts and actions that was new to me. Essentially, there were rules involved (though perhaps that’s too simple!). I understand what she expects from me, which brings her joy, and consequently makes me happy in a continuous loop.
Actually, it was my wife who purchased my current steel chastity cage—the EroSteel HF100 model—from Tickleberry. We had talked about it before, but I didn’t expect her to produce the device and have me put it on right away. That happened some time ago now, and I wore it even when traveling for work or if she was out of town. To me, it served as a tangible proof of my faithfulness and dedication.
However, just this week we realized that being locked up around the clock is actually what’s best for us. It feels incredibly freeing for me now.
Sexual intimacy has become all about patience and attention on my part. Since I know sex won’t end with my release due to the lock, it takes the pressure off, allowing me to fully focus on fulfilling her wants and needs. She also knows she doesn’t need to worry about being pressured for intercourse since she holds the key.
I’ve now been in 24/7 mode inside this steel cage without having an orgasm since December 6th; previously, I was finishing twice a day more often than not. I’m unsure when release will come next. Yet we still engage in intimacy frequently, and my wife enjoys her pleasure on her own schedule.
I feel much more regulated and genuinely content knowing the focus is on her rather than me, which feels very erotic to me. Being denied while serving her definitely keeps my libido high. I wish I’d started this years ago! You just need the right partner for it to work well. We are looking into a more comfortable wearable option because the hinge of the Eros cage can pinch the skin at the back of the scrotum during long-term wear. Since my wife enjoys having access (she loves teasing me by getting me erect while I’m caged), fully enclosed models might not suit us. :happy0120: