I’m sorry for the lengthy message. I’d like to ask how those with full-time careers manage to carve out time and energy for the male chastity lifestyle? It’s been a few weeks since my last visit here. I recently returned to working full-time, and it has been tough. When I finally arrive home, it is already 5:30 or later. As soon as I step inside, two dogs and a cat are scrambling for me. My husband waits patiently for his turn at the front desk. After a quick kiss, supper comes into focus. By the time we finish eating and clear the dishes, it’s around 7:30 to 8 o’clock. We spend a couple of hours watching TV before heading up to bed. Because I am wiped out by bedtime, there is little room for playtime. Yes, yes, we could skip the television and get serious about tease and denial, but we are creatures of habit (and somewhat lazy), making it difficult to break that pattern. I’m reaching out to keyholders who balance full-time employment while keeping a FLR going. How do you manage? Until January this year, my husband and I had been celibate for six years due to his health problems. Before then, we were fairly standard vanilla folks with not much activity. So, I never really had to figure out how to budget time for intimacy.
Now, there is a second part to all of this. We started male chastity just a few months ago. At first, I adored it. I was surprised by the feeling that knowing my husband was locked up gave me. Subconsciously, I had been worrying about him “handling” himself without need. It felt like for the first time in our marriage I held the reins, and I enjoyed that sense of control. HOWEVER, we have hit a snag. Several factors are causing this dip. The primary one is that he isn’t locked right now. He received a PA some months back, but the cage we had wasn’t functioning well. We are waiting for a replacement, and as you know, shipping can be slow. Since I despise seeing him in discomfort, I suggested unlocking him until the new gear arrived. This is starting to grate on me, particularly since my return to work. Then there is the timing issue. Oh, and those dogs I mentioned earlier? They don’t exactly help his case. His dog sleeps with us. We get into bed, and he has a bedtime routine of petting, scratching, and kissing her. Please don’t judge me for this, but sometimes jealousy toward that dog hits hard. Don’t misunderstand; I love her too, but it gets to me when I feel like second fiddle in my husband’s affections. I’ve always appreciated morning sex and have started it a few times since our FLR began, but the dog is an obstacle there. We crate him at night, and if he thinks we are awake, he whines and cries to be released, which ruins my focus. Our grandchildren visit often as well, so no play on those days. It’s all these small things adding up. Honestly, I’m wondering if my husband has second thoughts about FLR and male chastity. In the beginning, he was attentive, affectionate, and bent over backward to ensure I was content. Lately, it seems like he just can’t be bothered. Ironically, he was the one who wanted this while I was unsure, yet now I want it more than anything, and he doesn’t seem to care as much.
If you stuck with me through this long post, thank you for your patience. I’m hoping that if I can find time for play, everything else will settle into place. Please share your secrets on managing time. Any help is deeply appreciated.