I haven’t come across a discussion about mental chastity, which for me is the heart of true chastity and really gets my motor running. Perhaps I just haven’t wandered far enough into this board to find one specifically on Mental Chastity yet. So, I decided to kick it off by sharing…
Very recently, I had an unforgettable first-time encounter with a very sweet, complex, genuine younger guy who wanted to explore his submissive side… and anything else I might want along the way. Having never shared his erotic desires with anyone before due to a real fear of judgment, and now finding himself in a safe space to open up, things between us moved pretty quickly as he went all-in. I was deeply touched by his bravery in sharing so many deeper parts of himself without holding anything back. It was delightful watching him slowly unfold. There’s such a gift when someone allows themselves to be seen by you and takes the time to truly see you too. I haven’t been seen like that in ages — it was actually what first drew me to him. His honesty and openness gave me access to something I’ve sought all my life: his completely open, willing sapiosexual mind ready for adventure, with no borders or restrictions. His innocence was sweet and his mind so flexible to my suggestions.
Having only been in long-term vanilla relationships before, he didn’t know many of the things I talked about. When I explained that I am a cuckoldress and hinted at chastity by using the word naturally in conversation, he asked me what it meant. I explained the cuckoldress part, which he didn’t fully grasp initially but was open to. I kept details about chastity under wraps because I didn’t want to scare him off… I wanted things to evolve naturally as I slowly introduced him… which of course I did. I started by asking questions about his masturbation routine. Before long, he had stopped his daily habit simply because that’s what I desired, and it massively turned him on. He wasn’t allowed to touch himself at all, except when peeing or washing, unless given permission, and he was very good indeed. Each day brought stronger attentiveness and high communication, which I adored, and our conversations became racy. Every night he asked if I would let him cum, but I said no; I was enjoying it too much to interrupt, so he could last one more day. I gave him special tasks at night and at work designed to worsen his blue balls and drive him into total distraction. He confessed that he was obsessively thinking of me constantly and feeling strangely peaceful finally, knowing his fate rested in my hands. In truth, I was thinking about him all the time too. By day 5, I told him, “Congratulations! You are officially in mental chastity, under the control of a real woman who loves it.” He asked what exactly that meant. So cute! He has no idea how hard it is to find a woman into this lifestyle. He just accidentally stumbled right into it.
God, the whole experience was so delicious! I absolutely loved every bit of it. I loved waking up in the mornings feeling aroused by his energy; I loved his erotic messages at work and getting to know each other deeply while going to sleep with him on my mind. I loved how powerful and aroused I felt all day long at work. I loved devising his torturous tasks and experiencing his strong reactions. It’s the most alive and happy I’ve felt in years, and in some ways, like I was feeling things for the first time ever. It’s a deeply intimate experience when there is total honesty, and for me, that’s the whole point of this lifestyle. His commitment to being chaste for me was beyond arousing, which made mental chastity possible. I would have loved making it official with his first cage, not that he needed one physically, but mmmmmm, he earned it. I looked forward to a shopping trip he didn’t know about for a cage he didn’t even know existed. Haha.
Unfortunately, he already had plans to move to Seattle for several reasons and hadn’t anticipated meeting someone like me ever really in a million years. And I realized pretty quickly that this was a man with treasurable qualities I would prefer as my primary partner rather than just a side-piece or additional lover, so a long-distance relationship could never fully meet my physical needs. It’s a shame because the mental and emotional connection was everything I’d been looking for, and he ticked all the other boxes (and I have quite a few). I loved his explorer nature too—so adventurous! Unlimited options for me to explore.
I made the hard decision to break things off for now because I was falling harder for him with every passing day, and he’s moving soon. It isn’t an easy driveable distance either. The thought of taking this long-distance route feels almost unbearable. But… the door is open for the possibility in the future should he decide to relocate to Utah if I’m still available by then. I have a feeling he’s thinking really hard and reconsidering his options right now. Though, I hold no expectations.
I suspect that having experienced the intensity of mental chastity, especially as it was his first time, and now suddenly living without it, he won’t be able to forget any of this ever. Certainly not me. I already miss him like crazy.