Female led relationships discussion

Wow, you have a big job ahead of you; he certainly needs taming. I think starting with a strict discipline routine and locking him up to curb his nasty masturbation habit would be wise. Stay strong.

Wow! First off, congratulations on finding the confidence to take charge. Now you have a lot of work ahead and many decisions to make. Do you want a Female Lead Relationship (FLR), or is this just play? What does he actually want? I’d suggest focusing on communication because it seems you are aiming for an FLR while he wants simple play. Personally, I believe all relationships should be FLRs, but that’s another topic entirely. I do think you must start by making things pleasurable for him. Over time, however, you need to wean him off his orgasms and shift the focus away from being about him. Make him realize that your pleasure comes first; if he gets any enjoyment, it should be because he is pleasing you. Eventually, he shouldn’t link orgasm with pure pleasure. Personally, I’ve come to dislike them because I hate the crash after cumming. But that’s another side note. I’d suggest reading some older accounts from women who have trained their men. Learn from them and understand that it requires time, patience, and hard work. So be prepared. Also, make sure this remains fun initially. Have a good time together. When he messes up, don’t get angry; we men are simple creatures and it takes time for us to learn. If you frustrate him too much or if he feels like a huge disappointment to you, his ego will rebel. So remember that. Use it to your advantage. Finally, figure out what he wants and leverage it. Again, we’re straightforward and most guys are selfish. That is both your enemy and friend. Turn it on him but use it carefully. Feel free to PM me if you like. Otherwise, stay strong and good luck. Please keep us updated.

> Notouchy said: > Wow I think you have a task ahead of you, he certainly need to be tamed. A stricken discipline routine with him locked to stop his nasty masturbation habit to start I think. > Be strong > Click to expand... Yes, it’s going to be quite a journey in my opinion!

> tomf_22033 said: > Wow > First congrats on getting the confidence to take charge. > Now you have a lot of work to do and a lot of decisions to make. > Do you want a Female Lead Relationship (FLR) or is this just play? > What does he want? > I’d suggest that you work on communication as it seems you want an FLR and he wants play. > Personally I think all relationships should be FLR but that’s a different discussion. > I do think you have to start by making things pleasurable for him. But in time you need to ween him of his orgasms and about this being about him. Make him learn that your pleasure comes first and IF he gets any, it’s from pleasing you. In time he shouldn’t associate orgasms with pleasure. > Personally I’ve come to loathe them as I hate the crash after cumming. But that’s another aside. > I’d suggest you read some of the old accounts on women who have trained their men. I’d suggest you learn from them and understand that it takes time, patience and a lot of work. So be prepared. > I’d also suggest on making this fun at first. Have a good time and WHEN he screws up don’t get mad as we men are pathetic and simple and it takes time for us to be trained. > If you frustrate him too much or if he feels like he’s too big of a disappointment to you, his ego will quit. So don’t forget this. Use it to your advantage. > Finally learn what he wants and use it. Again we’re simple and most guys are selfish. That’s you’re enemy and friend. Turn it on him and use it but do so carefully. > Feel free to PM me if you like. Otherwise be strong and good luck. And please keep us posted. > Click to expand... Thank you for such a wonderful reply. I hadn’t even considered the difference between FLR and play, and yes, you’re right—he just wants to play, doesn't he? There is so much excellent advice here, thank you; I will genuinely use it. Especially the part about giving him some pleasure initially.