Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

the toughest part is behind you. now do yourself a favor and don't rush her. take it easy: read this if you want to learn more... try out whatever parts interest you, or throw the whole thing away if it doesn't resonate. all she really needs to do is keep an open mind. i was in a similar spot with my wife about a year ago. my suggestion? don't push too hard or too quickly. take it SLOW. once you have that first checkmark for chastity, it's easy to want to lay everything out at once. let her get comfortable; the rest will fall into place eventually (or at least the parts she wants). consider yourself incredibly lucky even if she only adopts the practice of being locked up. lots of men here would kill to have their wife or girlfriend hold their key

I'm torn with so many conflicting emotions right now it actually hurts physically. On one hand, I'm thrilled we had that chat and interaction; on the other, I feel uncertain about everything. I will definitely give her all the space she needs, even though my nerves are shot. We've agreed that she'll initiate conversations regarding this topic, while I simply answer her questions as best I can. It was hard for me to explain because I don't fully understand my own feelings yet either. While trying to describe why it helps me and what it could do for her, I focused heavily on the benefits for her, but she really wanted to know why *I* like it and what *I'm* expecting from it. Explaining the mechanics was also strange, though satisfying in its own way. I've always been a kinky guy, yet I have no idea where this specific urge came from. Part of my journey, perhaps?

i never really had a strong fetish for being locked up to begin with. honestly, i'm not even sure what made me tell the truth about wanting her to lock me up; back then, the porn I watched and my fetishes were mostly femdom, leather, latex, boots, bondage, etc., rarely touching on the chastity side of things. but i'm glad i did it, and you will be too for being honest with your wife. my wife felt honored that i wanted to step back from a sex life centered more around me (porn and masturbation) than her. she was also relieved from the pressure/obligation of having to please me and ensure my orgasm. now she can focus on what matters: her own pleasure and interests, which excite me just as much if not more than my release. our intimacy is mostly me giving oral, erotic massages, foot rubs on the couch, affectionate kissing like we did when dating, plus thoughtful gifts throughout the workday... basically, we've restarted our courtship with a healthy dose of kink woven in, growing stronger each month. i sense she's gaining confidence to try pegging since last week she was grinding against my rear while self-pleasuring during a break from caning. it made me feel like I was in heaven. enjoy the journey and stay honest with her; don't just submit passively (don't 'top' from your knees). make sure you prioritize her interests and pleasure first. ensure that your submission extends into daily life too, whether that means doing laundry, cleaning, or other tasks to ease her burden

> Ubercurious said: > We agreed to go ahead and provide her with more information, when she wants it, not before. I was thinking of letting her read the Male Chastity, A Guide for Keyholders by Lucy Fairbourne. > Is it the right choice, or are there other non threatening sources around? > /happyplace > Click to expand... The first book serves as a guide and outlines the advantages of an FLR (Female Led Relationship), including chastity. It offers plenty of good ideas for a new Mistress to adopt at her discretion; the second link blends fact with fiction and is quite erotic, depicting an FLR lifestyle grounded in reality. In one of those books, Mistress Benay describes how she transformed her vanilla date into someone living that lifestyle.