Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

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The nerve damage could be permanent. You need to take care because lasting restrictions in blood flow can lead to permanent issues during the timeframes you mentioned.

Welcome. There is another discussion currently running about banding. It carries potential dangers, so please be very cautious.

Most likely, your sensation will start improving after four to five weeks given what you've done,

> Jessica Alexander said: > Most likely, it will start getting better after 4-5 weeks for what you did, > Click to expand... I suppose only time will tell. I'm not worried if it takes four to five weeks; I just hope it isn't permanent.

> luckyhubby83 said: > nerve damage could be permanent. > you need to be careful as permanent damage can happen when blood flow is restricted for the lengths of time you are talking about. > Click to expand... If it turns out to be permanent, I do regret doing this. If it's just four to five weeks, I can handle that.

Here is an update. I still cannot feel any pleasure from the banding, which turns Karen on immensely. We are having more sex than ever before because I don't cum and remain perpetually hard. Not feeling anything in my cock really excites Karen. Karen tells me it's a mix of her being there at my beckoning call and the fact that she is receiving all this pleasure while I get nothing, which has drastically boosted her libido. A good example is oral sex. We've always enjoyed it, but Karen wasn't previously fond of the 69 position. Now she loves it. When I ask why, she says knowing that while I am performing oral on her, I can't feel her doing the same to me makes it extra arousing for her. So now we are doing 69 all the time. One final change Karen has implemented is that I am no longer allowed to masturbate. Even though it was difficult and could take up to an hour as my only release, Karen says she wants me at her beckoning call without any personal pleasure of my own. For me, this feels like a strange experience; I actually enjoy being used and staying at Karen's beckoning call. Being constantly horny is making me a better husband, and I look forward to pleasing Karen by serving not just in the bedroom but also attending to her other needs. It might sound odd, but that is how I feel.

I wouldn’t do it again myself, even if you’re having fun right now and making the best of things. Just play sane and safe. A brain clouded by denial can make some truly foolish choices. I survived my earlier CBT / chastity play. But it would be a pity to lose a part of yourself involuntarily or inadvertently. Good luck. I hope to read that your sensation returns. I actually think it would be safer if you were allowed to test your own sensations over the coming weeks. You can focus on honor system chastity later. For example, my wife insisted after she pierced me that I resume masturbation. I had been self-controlled for 160 days and lasted three weeks post-piercing while she gently tested her stroking of my newly pierced cock with just her hand. In mid-May through July in 2014, I gradually got used to my new PA. Only after finishing the stretching process did I return to her orgasm control. She wanted me to see how much force and pressure my piercing could withstand during play. I hope you both enjoy this situation in the short term. It can be frightening, and perhaps you are sexualizing what is happening too much. Wishing health and happiness to you and your wife!

> Peter Rabbit said: > I wouldn’t do that again, even if you’re having fun right now and making the best of the situation. Do play sane and safe. > A denial addled brain can make some really dumb decisions. I’ve survived my earlier CBT / chastity play. But it would be a shame to involuntarily and inadvertently lose a part of you. > Good luck. I hope to read your sensation returns. > I actually think it would be safer if you were allowed to test your own sensations yourself over the next weeks. You can focus on honor system chastity later. > For example My wife insisted after I was pierced that I resume masturbation. I had been self controlled for 160 days, and lasted 3 weeks after getting pierced with her just gently testing her stroking of my newly pierced cock. I spent mid-May,June,July gradually getting used to my new PA in 2014. Only after I finished stretching did I return to her orgasm control. > She wanted me to see how much force and pressure my piercing could take during play. > I hope you both have fun in the short term with this situation. It’s frightening and you perhaps could be sexualizing what’s going on. > I wish you and your wife health and happiness! > Click to expand... Thanks for your reply. We actually stopped the banding a few weeks ago as we want to see how long this numbness and inability to cum lasts. From reading around, it seems anywhere from one month up to six months. In one or two cases, it was permanent. While we don't desire a permanent situation of course Karen will enjoy the period where I can't cum. To be honest, she went through the first five or six years of our marriage without really cuming, but she never stopped, which I was very grateful for. So if she continues to get pleasure from cuming once or twice a day while I don't cum, then I should have no complaints. I am gaining satisfaction knowing that Karen is truly enjoying sex and knows I am doing it all for her benefit rather than my own. If we go six months or more, I think I can accept that as long as the feeling returns somewhere along the line. We agreed that if this becomes long-term, we won't band again due to the risk of permanent damage; however, if feelings return in a few weeks, we will band slightly less frequently. For me, it is all about pressuring Karen. She pleasured me for five or six years; the least I can do is return that pleasure.

My opinion is that cock banding is insane. Ss

Please be very careful. Banding can cause blood clots. Blood clots can lead to all sorts of horrible outcomes, including death by embolism.