Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

It can be quite enjoyable, but remember Rome was not built in a day. The notion that you can simply strap one of these on and go long term is more fantasy than reality. Take regular breaks as you begin, and watch your penis for any developing rashes or sores. Build up the time gradually. I think it took me about a month before I could hit my first full week successfully. Good luck.

I would love to hear how this conversation started! This seems fairly like a male-instigated activity, not that women don’t enjoy it—I know my wife does. It is rare to see the female bring it up. Welcome to the mansion and hope to hear all about your journey!

My girlfriend is new to being a keyholder as well! I was actually the one who introduced her to chastity. She had an abusive relationship before me, and I think it really helps her realize her feminine power. Tonight for the first time she went home with both my keys, and it feels like a whole different dynamic having her have complete ownership over me. She's quite busy so I probably won't see her for 2 or 3 days! My record is currently 4 days, which she knows about and wants to break. I love seeing her empowered!

> steve_p said: > Hi everyone. I am new here. Just got locked in a device called "locked in lust" for the very first time by my girlfriend. She managed to get me on board with this, and it has only been one day so far—I feel like I'm losing my mind inside it. > > I see how some of you go weeks or even months at a stretch, but right now I can't wrap my head around that possibility. It feels as though I have been trying to get an erection for the last 24 hours straight, and my poor member is trapped in this tube with little chance of getting one. > > I got home yesterday evening and began looking into this contraption. It's pretty decent actually. The ring works well on your balls, making you desperate to jerk off, yet it seems like unless I manage to break free somehow, that isn't going to happen anytime soon. My testicles are sore from trying to shake loose in this cage. =( > > I had no idea she owned one of these herself. She locked me up last night and mentioned she wants to gradually acclimate me to it. I'm not convinced it's humanly possible to "get used to" such a thing. Getting kissed while wearing it is almost unbearable. The sensation of wanting to jerk off but being unable to do so is a serious turn-on, making everything even more complex. > > After taking some time alone to explore the device when I returned home last night, I turned online and discovered this forum. Glad I did what I did. It seems helpful. Looks like a wonderful group of people here. I just need to survive until tomorrow so I can get out, but holy cow. Sleeping was difficult last night, and I have a feeling tonight won't be any easier. > > I really like her. She is attractive, funny, light-hearted, smart, and now I've discovered she has this chastity fetish. I just hope I can handle it. > > Thanks for letting me share my experience; I feel a bit better already. LOL. > > S. > Click to expand... Your Girlfriend is right that you need to slowly get used to it. It takes time, and you'll make mistakes along the way; but it's all part of the training process. Don't hesitate to ask for advice.

It's like buying a pair of running shoes and expecting to become a professional athlete immediately. It takes time and practice. You and your girlfriend should discuss what you each want from this arrangement. Good luck.

No one's experience is typical; my journey went something like this... A couple of years of occasional weekend use. Nearly a year without chastity, doing other things. Resumed, with a couple of years slowly progressing from just a few days up to a whole month at once. 6 months off due to a medical issue. The last couple of years have seen myself and my keyholder become much more serious about long-term use. She sets conditions for me to get release; usually requiring a list of DIY jobs and chores to be completed, with lockup times varying between one and four months, and unlock periods typically around a quarter of that duration. She has just added weight loss to my requirements. I now have to drop from just over 90 Kilos back down to the 82 kilos I weighed when we met 17 years ago! (that's 17lb I need to lose!) She knows it will take a long time, especially since she is an excellent cook! Only this morning she mentioned "this might take you a while, months if not years!"

Wow! That's pretty cool. Well done for trying it out so quickly after the lock. You are right; it feels strange during those first few times. I seem to be unusual in that I self-locked a few times back in August last year, never longer than 27 hours (7, 11, then 27 before stopping). My next adventure lasted over 50 days starting Feb 6th this year. Basically put: if you love your girlfriend, follow her lead and see how it goes. If this is a deal breaker for you, break the lock. If not, let her guide things a bit and see where they take you. Looking forward to hearing more from you either way!