Introductions discussion

Hi! I’m certain many share a similar origin story with long-term interest, so I’ll skip some details. After knowing what I wanted—a D/s lifestyle—for several years, my wife finally agreed to submit for a few weeks last year. I loved it and she enjoyed herself too; we both learned a lot about each other and came out different by the end. Unfortunately, everything changed at the end because we got carried away during our play. Nine months later, our second son was born (we’ll probably never tell him his conception backstory!) Since then, in late December 2018, our sex life has obviously died down. I’ve mentioned how much I loved “owning” her, but the vacant look back let me know all I needed—she wouldn’t be calling me Sir again anytime soon. I’m a generous man in bed and always got as much enjoyment from her pleasure as my own, so I thought it was time to try a different approach. Unbeknownst to her, I ordered myself a cock cage from LoveHoney, which arrived on Friday last week. My idea was that for her to truly understand why I enjoyed being in charge, I needed to let her have the reins. I tried putting it on a few times, but after several attempts, I realized I just had to man up and really push through—then, on Saturday morning, mission accomplished. Oddly, I was quite nervous about telling her my intentions, but on Saturday evening I showed her and explained my idea: I am booked in for a vasectomy on 13th May. I intended to lock myself up for the month, allowing Her to control the keys and take the lead. i wanted to serve Her in every way, i wanted Her to abuse me or ignore me as She saw fit, but whatever She decided was right for me, i would gladly go along with. She told me to take it off. i didn’t. i kept it on and had the most painful night’s “sleep” i can ever remember, until at 4 am i was forced to wake Her and ask for the Key. The next day, i tried again. She was still not sold on the idea (even less so after i woke Her up) but seemed slightly more intrigued. On Sunday, i wore it all day and instantly loved the sensation. i took it off before bed as i was quite sore from the chaffing, but i didn’t touch myself. It was Locked on Monday morning and has remained in place since. i love the feeling of it being on, i love the loss of control. i have made my Wife promise not to give me the Key - something She keeps offering me, so i am having to fight temptation on my own at this point. Although early days, i can already feel myself changing. i have not cum since just before trying to put it on the first time on Saturday, which is a very long time for me - i would usually have masturbated 3 or 4 times in the last 5 days, hopefully even had sex. i do not WANT to be released. i want to stay locked up and serve my Wife. i have ordered a combination safe for delivery tomorrow, into which i will request the Key is placed then lock with ChastiKey so i can no longer just go and get it from my Wife’s draw if i lose motivation. my hope is that my Wife will become more enthusiastic as time goes on and make the most of the month where i am putty in Her hands, so much so that She’s sad i’m taking it off… and keen for me to put it on again once i have healed. But whatever happens, i plan to see it through until the weekend before 13th May. It’ll be the longest i’ve gone without a release since i first found out how to masturbate, which is a good 20-25 years ago now.