Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I enjoy a good debate and chatting about these topics, but I’d really like to establish some sensible definitions for the terms we use most often. Since this is my thread and I have a preference for being correct, here are my thoughts on several common words and phrases.

1. Chastity: Using devices or sheer willpower, you choose to let someone else manage your private parts.
2. Self Chastity: Through device use or personal choice, you decide the conditions of your own privates.
3. Permanent Chastity: Like chastity, but with the understanding that there is no foreseeable future where those decisions are reversed.
4. Permanently locked: Related to chastity fiction. There will always be reasons and methods for removing locks.
5. Orgasm proof device: Also tied to chastity fiction. With enough time and effort, even the most diligent setup can be overcome. The top options known today are escape-proof and orgasm-resistant.
6. Escape proof: A device that must be damaged to remove it, preventing the penis from pulling out. Picking locks doesn’t count as an escape. If you need a specific skill to defeat your device, it has done its job.
7. Full Orgasm: Wow, if you’ve experienced one, there’s no mistaking it for anything else. Along with all those warm feelings, ejaculate may or may not shoot out in spurts, followed by a refractory (rest) period. Erections usually fade or lessen, and hormonal signals tell the body and mind that “sex is over.” The penis typically goes limp.
8. Ruined/unsatisfied Orgasm: You feel the orgasm happening, but stimulation stops abruptly. Ejaculate might come out in spurts, a steady flow, or not at all. A refractory period starts soon after, similar to a full orgasm, but because there was no continued stimulation during the act, it isn’t quite what it could have been. The penis usually goes from fully erect to semi-limp.
9. Bleeding Orgasm: The holy grail of denial orgasms. No feeling of climax, no refractory period, erection stays strong, and ejaculate flows out steadily without spurting (assuming you produce any).
10. Sex: Activity between partners involving physical contact with erogenous zones. This can involve any or all body parts. Having sex has nothing to do with having an orgasm or ejaculating. A good rule of thumb is if it would be inappropriate in front of your parents or kids, it’s likely a sexual act. Examples: Wife puts her feet on my lap and I rub them (not sex). Wife puts her feet on my lap and I lick them and suck her toes (sex). Wife watches you vigorously scrub an itch (not sex). Wife watches me vigorously touch my penis (sex).
11. PIV: Okay, let’s admit I dislike this abbreviation, but it isn’t going anywhere. It is sex where the penis enters the vagina. This doesn’t mean any orgasm or ejaculation occurred…a penis was inserted into a vagina. Next
12. Keyholder: The person to whom someone in chastity has given control. They may or may not be dominant; they may or may not prefer their partner being submissive. Their title comes from their agreed-upon role of making decisions regarding their partner’s privates.
13. Dominant: A personality trait linked with needing control and a desire to enforce one’s will. There are many ways to do this, typically brute force, threats, manipulation, guilt, etc. Tears can move people around just as effectively as whips.
14. Domme: A role freely given to someone they wish to dominate them.
15. Submissive: A personality trait linked with needing control and a desire to give up free will. Some also associate it with compersion, meaning deriving pleasure from pleasing others. There are many ways of being submissive: loss of decisions, service or appreciated hard work, gifts, prioritizing others, or physical acts. Being submissive isn’t about weakness; it’s giving without needing to take back immediately, and accepting what is given.
16. Sub: The role of the submissive partner opposite the domme. Footnote: Domme and sub are roles in BDSM play. They have nothing to do with personal traits like being naturally dominant or submissive, nor real-life identity questions on a big picture scale. -Domme/mistress/lady/ms/queen …role or title. Sub/pet/slave/boy/…role or title. -Roles and titles are only used when and where they fit.
17. True: See Chastity Fiction. A great way to get others to quickly point out that their version is just as valid.
18. Only: See Chastity Fiction. A great way for others to quickly note there are other variations.
19. Real: See Chastity Fiction. A great way to upset others by invalidating their version of something.
20. Chastity Fiction: Tales about certain aspects in our little world that usually come from people who have never lived it firsthand. It is based extensively on extremes, with little moderation. Also see Chastity BS.
21. Chastity BS: Tales of utterly over-the-top kinky stuff. Usually involves family members knowing or participating, forced cuckolding, bisexuality, feminization, and forced device wearing. These are my top 21! Enjoy