Hi everyone! I’m happy to have joined this group. The folks here seem really cool and welcoming, which makes me feel comfortable being open about myself.
I hadn’t delved much into my deeper sexual cravings until recently. I enjoy bondage and submission, though there’s still a bit of guilt attached that I am working on clearing up. Chastity is new territory for me as well. At the moment, I think I lean more toward vanilla chastity practices, but we will see where it goes.
My journey started with looking into NoFap and trying out abstinence along with cutting back on porn. It was a good experience; I noticed my confidence growing and that I stopped objectifying women as much. Consequently, I began purchasing bondage gear and restraints that excited both her and me. Then I found a chastity device and gave it a try.
One evening, before she unlocked me, she commanded me to perform oral on her. This was something I rarely did, but I obeyed without question. Before going down on her, I shot her a look that she later described as the sexiest thing I have ever done. She climaxed several times before granting my release.
It had been a week since my last ejaculation, during which time I had been edging and daydreaming constantly. When it finally happened, I held out for quite some time—longer than either of us anticipated. Afterward, I bound her up and took charge while she screamed in pleasure. At the end, with me restrained, she sucked my cock until I erupted… an orgasm stronger than any before lasting nearly a full minute as she continued sucking, almost choking on my seed.
We both agreed afterward that it was the best sexual experience either of us has ever had. Since then, I have been hooked on chastity. Initially, I started it to reignite passion between myself and my girlfriend because her libido had dropped. Now, I am eager to connect with others who share similar interests so we can learn from one another.
I drafted a chastity contract (drawing heavily from other forums) which is mostly me taking the submissive role. However, since both of us enjoy being dominant or submissive depending on the mood, we agreed that if she says “switch” in bed, I get to fully take control. She then falls under my authority until I ejaculate once. Afterward, she can say “switch” again, and our roles flip back.
We decided it was time for a new contract now that I have the Holy Trainer V3 (a device suitable for 24/7 long-term wear). Previously, because older devices were uncomfortable to keep on for extended periods, things kind of faded as I wasn’t locked up most days. I want to refine this agreement into something fulfilling and mutually beneficial.
I am also considering a contract that uses chastity as a method for self-improvement (like going to the gym or meditating) which would be required conditions before release is granted.
There is much left for me to discover and experience. I look forward to meeting and talking with you all!