Introductions discussion

Hello! I am a 27-year-old. BDSM has always intrigued me, and when I first heard about chastity cages, I knew I had to get one. Back in early 2015, I purchased a small Bon4 Metal model. My goal was simple: lock myself up to stop masturbating while living alone and trying to break my habit of self-pleasure. The Bon4Ms feels sturdy enough, yet it isn’t completely foolproof. With the largest base ring available, my member could slip out before returning to the cage, so I switched to one of the smaller sizes. Even with that change, moving the cage up and down along the shaft lets me stimulate the glans, which means an orgasm is still possible. However, since it doesn’t fully stop arousal, I end up even hornier than before—it’s not a true release. The base ring really digs into my balls, making it quite torturous. Being uncircumcised caused some issues initially because my foreskin would poke out through the front opening of the cage. Plugging that hole with a bit of toilet paper helped somewhat, though it remains uncomfortable. Later on, I met someone who took an interest in keyholding for me. She seems content to keep me aroused, and we both enjoy the dynamic. I’ve now been locked for five weeks, with my last orgasm occurring at the end of August. She has no plans to unlock me anytime soon, which makes me very happy!:) I’m considering purchasing a Steelworxx Looker 02. It looks more comfortable and secure. I’d like to try an urethral insert, but I hesitate because we plan to keep the cage on for several months without unlocking it—possibly using the EmlaLock method. I’ve read numerous articles online about this, yet I remain undecided, although most sources suggest long-term wear is safe. I also enjoy selfbondage. Since my friend isn’t into BDSM, I have to manage things myself. While I dream of being a true slave under a real domme, I must treat my current keyholder well… Please feel free to ask questions or share your advice!