Female led relationships discussion

So I was just wondering how all of the locked males deal with the emotional roller coaster that inevitably comes with chastity? My girlfriend and I are in a relationship of 2 years now, and orgasm denial has been a part of our relationship throughout. I absolutely love her, no matter my state of arousal, but I do find that the feelings of lust and adoration (in addition to obedience and attentiveness) build as my denial increases in length. This is to be expected, and I’d be more confused if it didn’t happen, but I wanted to get some advice on how to deal with these feelings. My girlfriend and I don’t live together although we see each other very often. I find that for me I almost end up having 2 modes: the mode where I gush and adore her and feel like I literally can’t be close enough to her, and the mode where although I love her, my mind can be diverted to other areas fairly easily. When we’re apart I like to stay in the latter of those two modes if possible, but she invariably notices and worries that there’s something wrong because we don’t feel as close. My issue is that, try as I might, it’s just so incredibly painful to wish to be with and talk to her and not be able to. I don’t know how to let those feelings of lust and adoration stay at the forefront of my brain while not letting it affect my mood negatively. On the other hand I don’t want to bury these feelings and not show them to her when I know that bothers her. So how do you guys deal with the intersection of these intense feelings and everyday life?