Like some others, my wife and I found it hard to pin down our own version of chastity. Most sites expected her to pretend she was someone else entirely. I checked out various online contracts, but they mostly read like laundry lists created by men dictating how their KH should control them. There were too many rules for me to keep in my head, and since life is fluid, things can shift quickly. My wife needs guidance rather than just visiting sex-focused websites, so I had to create some guidelines myself, which doesn’t always feel very submissive. Eventually, she’ll need to navigate this on her own.
I found what seems like a much simpler set of rules for the key holder to establish our specific style. The best part is that I am threatened with my greatest fear: the end of chastity play. My wife loves them because they focus on what she wants, not just what I want do, and they don’t rigidly lock her into a single role. These aren’t official decrees; they are just straightforward rules that work for us.
- You hold authority and you set the regulations. He cannot argue against a rule or else chastity ends.
- He is not allowed to escape. If he tries, chastity concludes.
- He may not ask questions about rules or anything else. If he must inquire regarding chastity or its guidelines, he must do so in writing and email it to you. You can choose whether or not to respond.
- He will obey any request from you right away.
- If he breaks a rule or otherwise makes the experience unpleasant for you, it ends immediately
- **You have the power to create rules that carry punishment if violated.