Orgasm Control and Sleep Issues

I suffer from sleep issues and several factors trigger them. It has improved significantly over the past year, which lines up with not masturbating at all. Recently, I’ve mostly had PIV intercourse or a ruined hand job, nothing else. That amounts to roughly 2-4 orgasms monthly, half of which are ruined, alongside other sexual activities where I don’t climax. Last night was quite some time since my last release, and my wife yielded and gave me a ruined hand job. I knew that was the best outcome possible because it had been months—since last summer—I hadn’t received a full hand job. We’ve experimented with denial intermittently throughout our relationship but have become much more systematic in the last year. So when she agreed to play, I realized I wasn’t getting intercourse or even a complete hand job, yet I needed something. A ruined hand job with plenty of “hang time”. After that ruined hand job, I woke up at 3:30 am and couldn’t return to sleep. I didn’t go back under the covers. The morning was miserable for me. My wife certainly noticed; she realized the connection immediately. Orgasms disrupt my ability to sleep, much like alcohol does. She remarked that “we’ve done a great job removing things over the past year… we need to be more careful about scheduling when they return.” Meaning, avoid orgasms on week nights. I dislike how deeply sex and my nervous system are linked.