We’re approaching the end of this month for our 45th wedding anniversary, but we weren’t sure how to make it stand out. After five years in chastity, the denial and lack of orgasm can wear down its novelty as you start over from scratch.
I considered whether we should even pause our sexual life entirely. My wife has grown more dominant within our marriage thanks to Chastity. Previously she would have resisted a wife-led dynamic, but between our sex life changes and my age-related memory lapses, she’s effectively taken charge of most things anyway.
This morning we decided how to mark our 45 years together: I will formally acknowledge that my wife holds authority over all aspects of our marriage. She has the final word on any disputes or choices. This is tough for me because I’m a control freak; I run a national business and am accustomed to people following my lead.
To formalize this, I’ll receive 45 strikes from my wife’s paddle, give her a massage, and then perform oral sex with her on our anniversary day. It adds another layer of change for us—the recent three being the Poly Triad with her girlfriend/lover, ending penetrative intercourse, and now entering Chastity. It should be quite an interesting evolution.