Penetration and orgasm Denial Compared

(tap-tap - is this coming through? I’m a new member and just posted to “Hello World”. Not sure when posting a new topic will be permitted but I thought I would put this out there.) On the boards I read a whole lot of discussion about climax denial, how long since last release, and how long until next release but very little about penetration denial. For me it is kind of the opposite. The feeling of penetration is about the best thing in the world and being denied that 10 times worse than being denied climax. In fact, when M and I started playing with orgasm denial the amount of penetration time increased dramatically. M loves penetration. I am not allowed to climax so sessions lasted much longer. I must to call stop when needed. Consequences are enforced by bondage. I’m motivated to behave. So, I don’t get to climax much but I do get a whole lot of penetration. My form of kink is to want to NOT get what I want. This is probably common around here. So naturally the IDEA of being denied penetration is very hot and very scary. Far more than orgasm denial. Since M likes penetration she is not going to NOT do penetration. Actually, she does at times and says that she regrets it later. There are ways to deny the enjoyment of penetration while still doing penetration. Mostly M does not put me inside her until I’m already on the edge of climax and then she keeps me on the edge. I spend most of my time inside her focusing on not climaxing, which requires NOT focusing on how good it feels. I’ve also used a two condom technique. If I put a condom on my dry penis, then lube, then a second condom that blocks all the good sensation of penetration. Fortunately M does not like condoms so we don’t use this. We have played with numbing cream (lidocaine). A moderate amount blocks a lot of my sensation but I can still set stimulated. This lets M move more which she considered a success. She said “exceeded all expectations”. A moderate amount given a lot of time to take effect blocks all the sensation. I can’t even feel that I’m inside her. The one time we did this I did not remain erect and so M considered it a complete failure. So that is how we have been playing with penetration denial. Mostly a whole lot of penetration and a little bit of experimentation. The idea that some technique might catch and take hold is exciting/scary. Far more than the fact that M says she won’t let me climax for another 10 months. How do others feel about penetration denial vs orgasm denial. Why so much focus on orgasm and so little on penetration? What is your situation? T