How does that dynamic play out with you and your KH? Do you like having an idea of when you’ll be let go, or do you prefer it to remain a mystery?
Before my very first time in the cage, my girlfriend brought this up. I didn’t want to know. However, after the initial week of confinement passed, I asked if I could change my mind. Since I’m someone who focuses on goals, having an approximate date gives me something specific to aim for. She mentioned that her plan was to let me out roughly every 30 days initially, and then gradually extend those intervals over a few months. Her goal is to have the release times stretch to about 90 days by this time next year, which I hope we achieve.
In August, I am scheduled for another lock up lasting around 30 days. Because of that known window, I started counting my days in confinement and updated her daily. I wanted her to see how well I was managing without an orgasm during those long stretches. This routine continued for a week until she pointed out that it seemed like all I cared about was getting released so I could cum; she felt I wasn’t prioritizing her needs as much before my turn came up. Naturally, she was right—I had become less attentive to her desires because my mind was fixed on the day I would finally get off.
Now, she keeps me guessing and doesn’t tell me exactly when the release will happen, which suits me better. It shifted my mindset immediately; I am back to focusing on pleasing her rather than obsessing over getting out. She did mention that this August’s lock up will be “extended past 30 days” due to some confusion earlier, keeping things unpredictable for me. She is turning into the best KH imaginable!