Wondering if anyone else has felt sexually overlooked. For twenty-one months, my wife teased and edged me at least twice weekly while experiencing intense orgasms each time. She absolutely adored the teasing and denial, often laughing with joy over it. We paused our chastity arrangement, but she preferred I get locked up again rather than waiting until August ended. That worked for me since growing bored from not constantly feeling that sexual energy.
The issue now is her lack of interest in sex or teasing. I’ve mentioned twice that her approach makes me feel like the cage is just an excuse to avoid intimacy. She has dropped all the activities we used to share. It feels as though I am simply locked up, waiting for her to find the mood for an orgasm using her vibrator, which she reminds me doesn’t even need my presence. For a long while, my wife had a female lover who served as both our primary sexual partners. She acted as my Mistress and was quite skilled despite being an amateur. Even without intercourse or oral sex, I enjoyed those BDSM sessions; serving as their slave while they satisfied each other felt like the icing on the cake.
Now it is just us two, and I worry that she has lost her turn-on for chastity. Perhaps if she were more dominant, making it feel active rather than passive disinterest, things would be fine. I would welcome humiliation along with the rest of a D/s dynamic. Instead, what I get is her stating she isn’t in the mood, sometimes recovering after a few days but often stretching into weeks. I plan to wait another week or two; if nothing shifts after my second conversation with her, I will request the key because I need some form of sexual release even without an orgasm, which currently isn’t happening. I have gone a week unlocked before and she didn’t notice or check on me. I dislike feeling like my own keeper (KH), as that doesn’t satisfy my sexually submissive nature.
Does anyone else have a girlfriend or wife who wants them in chastity but ignores their sexual needs for over a month?