Understanding the essence and appeal of chastity fetish

I find myself wondering about the deeper essence of chastity fetish. What makes it so attractive? The element of control is clear to me. For instance, only your committed partner determines whether and when you will reach orgasm. To me, this feels like a gift offered to her, or perhaps a more profound level of dedication. It means not just remaining faithful to her with other women, but also refraining from using my own hand. She holds the ultimate power; my cock belongs to her. This is perfectly acceptable. Yet, there is one part I haven’t quite grasped. Why do many find such a lengthy denial so appealing? Wouldn’t we feel equally possessed if we were permitted to orgasm more often, provided it was strictly at her command? This could be entirely random or depend solely on her whims and desires. Thus, she might grant permission three times daily, or only once in twelve months; the choice is hers alone. The question remains: why do many men favor rarity over frequency? Why would anyone wish to miss out on pleasure for a quarter of a year when perhaps the woman herself prefers more regularity? By the way, I know prolonged chastity can be healthy. However, numerous articles suggest that orgasms themselves are beneficial. The reality is… they feel good and likely stimulate specific brain regions. Moreover, they cost nothing, don’t harm the environment, and won’t spike your cholesterol or lead to weight gain. So what’s the advantage in avoiding them entirely? Wouldn’t it be wiser to still experience them while allowing her control over timing?