I want to understand how other men handle starting sexual activity while wearing a cage. I’ve made sure my wife knows she controls my orgasms—deciding when, how, and if I can cum. As the time between releases grows, I naturally feel quite horny and ready for sex almost constantly. Because her libido is lower than mine, I keep an eye on whether my advances might become bothersome. Since beginning this chastity lifestyle, I’ve definitely shifted toward being more passive in bed; I listen and watch to see if she’s open to it. I believe she senses my desire even when I’m not grabbing at her or acting too assertive. Last night was a great example: she wanted me to perform oral sex on her. She even asked that I climax while she used her fingers for her third orgasm.
Do other men notice they’ve become more passive in bed and less obvious about wanting intercourse? Do you think wives or girlfriends miss that old assertiveness from us? Does your partner find your advances annoying, or does she enjoy—and perhaps even get aroused by—your state of being horny and frustrated?