I’ve been watching from the sidelines for a few weeks and really appreciated the insights shared by members, which have contributed to what has been an impressive lifestyle shift for me recently.
After about six years of experimenting with different devices while my wife remained mostly uninvolved, I worked up the nerve to bring it up with her after my recent birthday.
Thanks largely to guidance from BCWYWF, I’m now living out a dream and fulfilling an old fantasy.
My wonderful wife also read that book and consented to take on the role of key holder back in late November.
It’s been a lovely journey for us both so far; our bond feels more open and truthful, drawing closer than it has at any point since we tied the knot.
As is common here, finding the right device means discovering one that fits your daily routine and works well for everyone involved.
She isn’t fond of heavy steel belts. I’m using a fully adjustable model imported from China which, surprisingly, offers great comfort and performs better than anticipated for its low cost. Some tweaks were needed to keep the rubber in place since it kept sliding off, but with my new energy driving me to lose weight steadily, it’s working perfectly. It serves as my sleeping device too, keeping unwanted erections at bay throughout the night without interruption.
She prefers the CBXXXX models I wear during daylight hours. However, anyone who has worn them knows they can be uncomfortable due to burning and pinching that demands constant tweaking (often in spots where it’s less than ideal!).
We’re cautiously considering a PA piercing using either a PA5000, Loris Tube, or Mature Metal device. We aren’t quite there yet because it would involve creating a 4-8 gauge hole in my pride and joy, and I’m not fully convinced it will be the final answer. All thoughts on this route are welcome.
Since late November, I’ve managed to reach orgasm just once; since then, no more release (not bad for beginners). My dear wife mentioned that our next chance could come on our wedding anniversary, February 25th, 2012. I’m counting down the time! After that date, releases will be up to her judgment with no fixed schedule. She hinted it might take much longer than three months, which sounds thrilling.
We’re both mindful of prostate health since there aren’t definitive guidelines on this matter—it’s important we get it right. We talked about massage, though she doubts the effectiveness of manual techniques. Perhaps a mechanical massager is in order? Or maybe it’s something we shouldn’t worry overmuch about at all. I’d love to hear your views.
Thank you all for the helpful discussions; looking forward to being part of this community.