Female led relationships discussion

Greetings to everyone here, and a special welcome to the Mistresses and keyholders. As someone new to this community, I have some questions and thoughts to share. First off, regarding the different forums: I’m still figuring out where it’s best to post. This one feels like just the right spot because it zeroes in on Female superiority and how that shows up through the control and willing submission of their men. Adding to that, after spending a bit of time lurking around, everyone seems helpful, genuine, and ready to share what they know. So, thank you. Being new here has sparked some questions, plus I want to connect with people who think similarly. I’ve been involved in alternate lifestyles, D/s, and BDSM for quite a while now. In those spaces, it’s common to take conversations offline or keep them private. Is that the case here too? Or do most folks stay within the forum threads? Some of my questions might seem basic to veterans, but if any Mistresses are open to guiding me so I have an expert resource nearby, that would be wonderful. Also, I posted my initial comment in the Tower forum, and one Mistress was very kind to give a long, helpful response there. Thanks again. Can I name her? Well, she knows who she is. Here are some specific questions I’ve encountered. First, do any of these forums focus heavily on Q&A? If not, here’s what I’d like input on: What exactly is a “ruined orgasm”? The term seems descriptive enough—I grasp the concept—but what’s the purpose? It sounds like allowing or forcing the male to begin an orgasm and then cutting it short. Is the goal to drain the cum while preventing full satisfaction? Or to control his sexual expression in another way? And practically speaking, how is it actually performed? Next up is milking. I get that the aim is to extract a male’s cum without giving him pleasure from it. How does one do this? I came across “prostrate milking.” Is that always done via the prostate, or are there other methods too? Does it happen with the chastity device still on, or can it be taken off? More importantly, why bother at all? Unless you’re into consuming cum (that thread had 145 replies, so clearly popular). But if not interested in that, why not just let him endure without release? Is milking mandatory? And when does it happen—not that I’ll live long enough in chastity to need a scheduled one. I think that covers my queries for now. I don’t want to overwhelm anyone or become boring! Let me know if this post interests you. As mentioned, any Mistresses who prefer private chats are welcome. To clarify, I’m not (currently) seeking out a Mistress specifically; I just find it easier to communicate with them, and they’re more likely to answer my questions well. Growing up, I had more female friends than male ones. I’m no sissy, so don’t expect that trait. But yes, I am submissive. Excited to read your replies. Thanks.