Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi just looking for some advice, my wife and i tried chastity before and it didnt work, she recently brought up the idea of us trying again. The problem for us is time, my first question is how often does your keyholder unlock you and how often do they tease you (i understand that every relationship is unique btw). My second question is on punishments, i cant wear a chastity belt for work reasons so we can try going on the honor system, if i break it what can the punishment be, the main things to consider are we have kids at home plus the beating/whipping type punishments are not in her nature, thanks for the help.