Where to start? I’m obviously into chastity, but to get a feel for how I got here, and to sort out my own thoughts, let’s back up a bit. My wife and I live a pretty normal life, and our life together was good. In almost every way we were a perfect match, except when it came to sex. I was typically male, in that I wanted, and needed, lots of it. In that regards I guess she was typically female, in that her sexual appetite was significantly lower than mine. To complicate things further I have always been interested in stuff outside of vanilla sex, while she have not. As you can imagine this was a cause of constant friction between us, sexually. We had also a pretty different view of what our responsibilities were sexually. I always had the view that it was my job to make sure that she got what she wanted. More often than not this meant that I first made sure that she had an orgasm, before I could let my self go and have mine. She on the other hand, when she was in the mood for sex, was quite satisfied with getting an orgasm, and promptly lost all interest in sex after this and just wanted to go to sleep.. with her back to me. For years I struggled with this situation. We talked about it on numerous occasions, and while it would get better after each talk, it quickly settled back to the same situation after a while. I can’t count the sleepless nights where I felt sorry for myself for not getting any sexual satisfaction. I compensated by masturbating. I think I averaged about once per day. Oh, my wife have another quirk that made things difficult for me. After giving birth to our first child, she couldn’t stand me touching her nipples. I’m very much a breast-man and my wife have the most wonderful pair! I just love her breasts, they are perfect. She often let me caress them, but I was not allowed to get near her nipples. If it happened when she was in the mood, the mood would disappear, which meant no sex. So, our sex life being in the sorry state that it was (according to me), we developed a “routine” that consisted of once or twice a month we would satisfy each other, every other time. So I would give her an orgasm, usually through oral sex, then a couple of weeks later she would give me an orgasm, usually by her masturbating me. Once in a while she would give me a blow job, or even let me suck on her nipples (!) for a little while. The problem was, that since I knew she wasn’t enjoying either very much, it wasn’t really that enjoyable for me. In one of our “talks” about our problematic sex life (my words), I asked her if I wasn’t satisfying her, and even said that if it would make things better for her, that she could take a lover if she wanted. I thought perhaps that would make her more interested in sex again. But she responded that she didn’t want anyone besides me, and that there was nothing wrong with me. I think we just had vastly different sexual needs, and since she was the one that usually didn’t want any, I couldn’t very much force myself on her. I often ended up sleeping on the sofa instead of in our bedroom, as I felt it was easier for me if I didn’t have her sleeping right besides me. By sleeping alone, I wasn’t constantly turned on by her beautiful body right next to me. Outside of bed though, we had a great life together, and I loved her dearly! Now, one other thing you need to know about my wife. She really doesn’t want to talk about sex. Every time we talk about it, it’s me starting the conversation and she would seldom contribute to it. We have talked about this a lot and she agrees that we should be better at communicating regarding sex, and she have become better at it. Fast forward to about a month ago, we talked about a party she had attended at work, and I learned that she liked to flirt a bit with some of the boys at work. I was ecstatic to finally have her admit something like this to me, and I gently prodded her about it. Flirting for her wasn’t anything more than playful banter and sly smiles, but she told me she liked it. I told her that I liked it, wanted her to know that it was totally ok for me that she did this. After talking a bit about this I asked her how far she would like to take the flirting given the chance. She didn’t give me any straight answer and I felt she was beginning to close up again, so I just kept talking:) I asked her if she would have liked to make out to someone given the mood, and to my surprise she said that she would like that. She was quick to say that it wouldn’t ut would never be anything more than that and that she would never cheat on me. I was getting so turned on by the fact that she was telling me all this, and I told her that should be able to do whatever she wants as long as it was me she loved and wanted to spend the rest of her life with. I gradually let her know that I was totally fine with anything she wanted to do, but that I didn’t need, or even want, to be given the same freedom. She quickly agreed and said that she would never have given me permission to do the same! I was more than a little turned on by this talk and told her that from now on, she would be allowed to do everything she wants. I just wanted her to be happy, and be satisfied. I told her then something that changed everything. I gave her my sexuality. I said that from now on you own my dick, and she would be in control of when, and how, it should be used - and that I would divert all my sexual energy into pleasing her instead. All that mattered to me where her satisfaction. She smiled and nodded and said “I like this!”. This totally changed our sex life. I started to give her oral when she wanted without expecting anything in return. When she told me she wanted my dick, I happily gave it to her of course, but thought nothing of getting an orgasm. If I came I was happy, if I didn’t I was equally happy, as long as she got her orgasm. I was still masturbating at this point though, but as I nurtured my fantasied about our new sexual direction I came upon the subject of chastity and knew right away that I was onto something. I ordered a chastity cage, and when it came in the post, I promptly put it on and gave the key to my wife. I told her that from now on you OWN my dick for real. I will not masturbate, or even touch myself without her saying so. Something wonderful happened after doing this. Not being able to get an outlet for my hornyness, I spent all my energy wanting to satisfy her instead. I gave her long massages, and couldn’t stop looking at her. Day by day she became even more beautiful in my eyes, and I couldn’t stand being away from her. After being away from her for some hours, I always need to kiss her, touch her, hold her and tell her how much I love her! Something else strange also happened. Porn didn’t get me nearly as turned on as it used to. Instead, a message from my wife asking me to buy milk on my way home from work, got me instantly turned on. Merely from the fact that it was from her! I’m not locked in 24/7. Whenever she feels like it she let’s me out. She usually prefer to have me unlocked during the nights, but so far I haven’t been given a single orgasm in nearly 3 weeks… and I love it! She loves to tease me, to the point that I’m moaning and shaking my body, and then just stop and turn around to do something else. Always with a sly smile on her face. She is really getting into this, and when I ask her about it she says that she really likes being in control. She is not into sissy-stuff and degradation, but she have started to give me orders (as opposed to ask if I can do stuff), and I get instantly turned on when she does this. I told you I haven’t had a single orgasm, and that means nothing. Not even ruined orgasms. I mentioned prostate milking the other day, but she refuses to put anything up my but (lol), so if I need that I need to do it myself. I have tried, and just can’t do it. Luckily I have found
I realized I can manage without needing anything extra beyond doing Kegel exercises after using the toilet. It might be a bit messy, but it’s good to get my prostate emptied every once in a while.
My arousal is constant; you know that sensation where your entire body feels tingly and your cock seems perpetually eager to break free from its cage. I really enjoy this state of being locked up. Right now, I’m not sure when the next release will happen. There are no specific rules or a fixed date set for my orgasm yet, but I prefer it this way. It’s all at her discretion, and even if she decides to keep me chaste forever, that would be perfectly fine with me. My own sexual needs matter less than hers now. Our intimacy has improved significantly; she seems much more driven lately, and I often help her reach an orgasm before she drifts off to sleep. Knowing I’ve satisfied her allows me to fall asleep smiling.