Female led relationships discussion

“Back in 2009 I was really into chastity, and wanted to ask my then wife about it. I know for a fact she would have taken it as a personal slight that I need a device to treat her well, not masterbate, or ‘stay turned on’. She never would have understood that it wasn’t really about just controlling masterbation, it was the feeling of constant wanting, the giving of all control, and in general asking her to verbally as well as physically be involved. Plus I truly thought it might help our relationship. She always said that we never had sex because she hated to feel obligated to have sex, and the longer the gaps the more she felt obligated. She also didn’t like to kiss, fondle or play, because again, she felt that it meant it had to go further. I thought chastity would be the perfect fit, we could flirt, play, etc, and she would never feel like she ‘had’ to have sex. I even joined this site…different name, and said I was going to ask my wife to be my KH. I did not. I think I mentioned something similar and looked for her reaction. It was not favorable. She thought it was weird, ‘that’s fucked up, what kind of sicko would allow their husband to wear one?’ I laughed and said ‘yeah but I bet after awhile she might like all the extra attention’. Which she countered with ‘he shouldn’t need that to give her attention’. It was a lost cause and if I talked about it anymore she would know I was into it. I never talked about it again, and never went to cm again until after we split. The next time I was in a relationship I vowed to not hide who I am. I was going to let it all hang out, and it may not be something that they are into, but I won’t be happy faking, not talking, and be a stranger to someone that cares for me. Waited about 2.5 months into the next relationship. I knew it was getting serious and I needed to share who I was, not only so she could get out without feeling lied to, but also for the opportunity to give myself happiness. I was lucky, she was skeptical but open minded. She did some internet research, was able to get through the fantasy porn, and crazy stuff. She had some questions, we discussed what I wanted, what she wanted, and we kept on talking. I think she was hooked on it fairly quickly. We are in a full time D/s chastity lifestyle. Was pierced in the middle of August(she went with me), I only take my cage off if she tells me to, she teases and denies me on a regular basis, if she thinks I’m naughty or not putting her first I get punished, when she thinks I deserve it she might provide release or fantasy fulfillment. An escape proof device for my piercing is on the way that she will have both keys to. We didn’t have a contract, but did write some commandments or rules we both agree to. I have never been happier So, what is your beginning?”