Introductions discussion

Hi everyone. A follower from my Tumblr chastity blog recently suggested this spot to me. I go by nefariouschastitylife and nefariouschastity - one account shares my photos and videos along with reblogs, while the other serves as my personal diary. I joined just a few weeks ago at the beginning of October. After spotting various chastity devices on Tumblr, I asked my wife if she might be interested in trying it out. We were struggling through a difficult period, and I felt that this would help center our relationship around her needs while curbing my self-absorption. Since we are both quite new to this lifestyle, we are eager for advice and ideas on how to progress. I have already cycled through four devices after making all the typical beginner mistakes in succession. Fortunately, I recently acquired a Holy Trainer that fits perfectly, giving us hope to take things further. My previous three were too large; they felt like they might saw my testicles off and weren’t really built for extended wear. If that HT hadn’t fitted so well, I likely wouldn’t be posting here now because my wife would have stopped any more experiments. The main driver is my naturally obsessive nature and tendency to push boundaries. Recently, I split nearly all the way through my glans as a genital modification. My wife gave her permission, but she wasn’t prepared for how startled it made her. I absolutely love the result and really wanted to complete the process. The aftermath almost threatened our marriage long-term. This chastity arrangement was my idea: a method of making amends by keeping my penis in its lock so no further modifications could be done, handing over both the key and control that she needed. While it saddens me that major modification is now off the table, I experience similar satisfaction while wearing the device. It also seems we have drifted into an FLR dynamic without even noticing. I am not sure exactly how far this will develop, but we are both thrilled by what lies ahead.