I was in a relationship with my girlfriend for four years, but about a week ago she suggested we separate. Her reasoning is that she’s young and wants to try out new experiences. I didn’t react explosively or anything like that; on the contrary, I stayed cool while feeling hurt inside, so two days later she asked for forgiveness and wanted us to get back together, though she still emphasized her desire to experiment. We’ve generally discussed trying fresh things (not necessarily sexual), but I have long harbored an interest in chastity and cuckolding which I never told her about. Sometimes we practice orgasm denial for me over a week-long period followed by a short 3-4 day break. My pride keeps me from suggesting opening up the relationship to her side. Also, I’m wary of permanent chastity because it would enforce the denial rules more strictly and shorten my free periods considerably. I’d appreciate advice on how to bring this topic up.
Currently, my girlfriend goes out regularly with her female friends, and I notice she spends a lot of time chatting or talking on the phone. Before her, I had many partners, so I know what works for me, and being active in martial arts helps significantly here too. Still, I want to offer both stability and freedom simultaneously. We often engage in orgasm denial play, but my concern is about moving toward permanent chastity/orgasm denial. Am I being selfish?