I posted this as a question in the ‘Journey’ forum and felt it deserved to be here where more people might see it:
In an earlier journal entry, I noted that my wife and I have only used my cage once. But I’ve been wearing it myself fairly consistently since getting it (for instance, I’m sporting it right now!), typically when she’s away for long stretches (curiously enough, I prefer not to let her know I’m locked up on my own). The thing is, after wearing the cage for a while and then removing it, subsequent sex or masturbation leaves me finishing incredibly quickly. My duration was never exceptionally long to begin with, but being confined and then released heightens my sensitivity so much that holding back beyond ten, perhaps twenty seconds becomes difficult. This happened during the single time we used the cage together, which makes me wonder if it’s why she hesitates now. I’m not entirely certain. Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal? Please share your thoughts. Thank you. I’ve always worried about my ability to ‘last’, which is how I developed the habit of ensuring her pleasure first (usually via oral) before penetration begins. My logic was simple: if she reaches satisfaction early, there’s no risk of being left hanging while I struggle on the trigger-her enjoyment comes first regardless of what happens next…so my anxiety eases and any extra time is a bonus for her, particularly since I’ve noticed (in my limited experience) that she tends to hit a second orgasm much faster than the first. Back when I was [younger] and could manage 5-6 erections daily, I’d also take care of myself about an hour or two before meeting up. This took the ‘edge’ off, allowing me to move at a steadier pace rather than rushing due to excitement. I like to believe her appreciative reactions showed they noticed this courtesy, even if they didn’t know why. Now, after being caged and full of desire for some time, my fuse is often short. She understands this and knows not only to ensure she finishes first but also possibly a second time during penetration…and occasionally a [second or] third when she’s feeling playful and wants me to pleasure her orally while sitting on my face. As another member pointed out, this ties into my cuckold/humiliation fantasies too. She could easily claim my cock isn’t suitable for fucking because it doesn’t last long enough, using that as an excuse to seek satisfaction elsewhere.