Over the past three years, my wife kept me in chastity for increasingly long stretches (up to 110 days). It was pure agony but also delivered some of the most intense sexual highs I’ve ever experienced. Recently, she ended it.
I’m about a month out now, and things have settled into a new normal. So what’s my take?
Making love with my wife and having orgasms - I definitely love that. A lot.
But I miss the intense yearning; I miss being completely consumed by my desire for her. I miss the deep kissing and hugging that would go on until our lips were raw.
We’ve never had this level of intensity, desire, or connection—both emotionally and physically—even when we were much younger.
For her, it became overwhelming. And I understand why—the intensity is nice in moments, but for me, it was always on, meaning she constantly received it. Sometimes I felt like she had to reciprocate even when she just wanted a quiet, relaxing moment. Plus there’s something us guys rarely grasp: she actually preferred fewer orgasms.
It’s a huge trade-off for both of us. For her, the upside is having me totally focused on and infatuated with her; the downside is that I’m always ‘on’—there’s no rest period. For me, the plus is being consumed by my wife—I can’t stop thinking about her—and loving being owned by her, along with the sexual intensity. The negative? I really missed orgasms, which drove me insane at times.
So if I had to choose, what would it be? Chastity. Without a doubt. (Though many times while locked up, I do question that decision.) Why? Because being totally consumed by the woman I love is so amazing. It’s an unmatched sexual high too, but even more significant is the emotional intensity.
Chastity wasn’t really my kink before we tried this; I never would have guessed I’d like it. Yet now, after experiencing it, our relationship feels much better.
I understand how being on the receiving end can be too much, especially as we aren’t that young anymore. And in an FLR dynamic, that means she calls the shots.
But I miss it—so much.