I’m pleased to share that I’ve stayed away from masturbation for almost a year. My wife and I have decided to keep this up through 2015, and it has settled into a comfortable, steady part of our relationship.
For over twelve months now, every time I climax, it is her gift to give me. What surprises me most is how much trust we operate on. Although I got pierced last spring and own all the gear necessary for strict chastity, she lets me out more than half the time.
I’ll confess that my setup isn’t too tough because she treats me well, giving me orgasms roughly every four days. There were months like January and June where I went a whole month without climaxing, yet remained unlocked. In fact, during mid-June, I had just one ejaculation while we were sharing sweet kisses; it was a complete ruin as I came all over her face.
I am now always tuned in to her moods, and she has started enjoying playful teasing along the way. Because of this, I believe our current arrangement could last forever.
She did promise to lock me up eventually—perhaps within a few months—as she mentioned during that denied June. However, I have really handed the choice over to her. It matters deeply to her that it is my decision as much as hers. This is what I desire: not for her to force something upon me unwillingly, but for her to help me endure longer than I could alone.
I don’t think I can handle staying locked and kept any longer than about a month without losing patience. Successfully getting through that one-month challenge on the honor system demonstrated my dedication to this new way of life in a real sense, and it has brought us closer together.
We missed marking my first year of orgasm control earlier. Now that we are approaching the anniversary of no self-pleasure (whether or not I climaxed), I would love to mark the occasion uniquely.
I want to avoid imposing grand ideas on her too heavily.
Beyond a lovely romantic dinner, what do you think is the best way for us to celebrate my first year without masturbation?