Female led relationships discussion

I want to share my experience with cuckolding and chastity from the last week. It has been incredibly intense, marking one of the most thrilling periods in my life! Because I don’t have many kinky friends nearby, I’m just going to unload everything on you all since I’m eager to tell someone. To start, a bit about us and how we arrived here: My mistress and I have shared a loving monogamous bond for just over two years. When we met, I introduced her to femdom and BDSM, and we’ve been committed ever since. I voiced my desire for chastity early in our relationship. It took some time for us both to adjust to the concept and how it would fit into our dynamic (the key is not to force it; if it’s meant to be, it will happen naturally, even over years). Now that Mistress has gained confidence and experience in her dominant role, she really enjoys the idea, and we ordered a chastity cage from eBay a few weeks ago. Earlier this year, we also started discussing polyamory. We decided that being poly suited us both well because our love for each other is secure, and having outside partners would add excitement to our relationship. Thus, we agreed to become a poly couple. However, I told my mistress that while I agree with the ideals of living polyamorously, chastity appeals to me more right now than taking on another partner myself. So I suggested staying chaste for her while she is free to do as she pleases and remain under her complete sexual control. She absolutely loved this setup, and we agreed. It seemed like a win-win: I got denial, and Mistress gained total sexual freedom. So, my chastity device arrived last week, ready to be fitted when I next saw her. To say I was excited is an understatement! Also that same week (and this is where it feels like we dove straight into the deep end), Mistress started flaunting her new poly status and planned a weekend getaway with a guy she’s known since school who recently divorced. They had been chatting on Skype for a while, so there was obvious mutual interest. I knew what would happen when she left; it was a perfect opportunity to test my feelings about polyamory in practice. We discussed our emotions that day thoroughly. Although we were both understandably nervous, we gave each other the reassurance needed to proceed. Last Wednesday, my cage was unpacked and fitted with great excitement! It turned out to be a perfect fit. I was overjoyed knowing my cock was finally locked up—truly a dream come true! I experienced my first frustrated attempt at getting an erection shortly after… Wow, this is going to be amazing! Mistress attached the key to her keyring and sealed the spare key in wax. Since we don’t live together, I headed home for the night as my first time wearing the cage alone. There was real pain as I tried hardening up several times during the sleep hours. I couldn’t believe I had finally entered chastity, constantly touching the padlock to remind myself. The first night was unforgettable! I saw Mistress again the next day. She checked that the cage wasn’t damaging me and unlocked it for a few hours. After some intense teasing, she put me back into my cage. We spent the rest of the day together before I left home once more. But this time felt different because Mistress was departing on Friday to stay at her guy’s house, which is 60 miles away. The thought of being locked up with no release option drove me mad, and wondering what she was doing kept me on edge all weekend. I sent a few messages over the days telling her how I was coping, how frustrated I felt (she asked me to report my suffering), and how much I adore her. Her reply to my long emails was sexy and simple: “get used to it worm.”… It couldn’t have been better! Mistress was expected back on Saturday but ended up staying with the guy until Sunday evening. Due to her university schedule, I got to see her for the first time yesterday—six days after being locked. She was very excited about her long weekend and had a wonderful time. She wanted to tell me everything but worried about hurting my feelings because she had been in possessive and jealous relationships before. I offered lots of reassurance and started asking questions. Eventually, she shared it all. As Mistress found that each revelation didn’t negatively affect me, she opened up more and cried with happiness that we could do this together. As I suspected, Mistress became intimate with her old friend. What surprised me was that she allowed him to dominate her, which she loved. We used to be a switch couple, but since Mistress preferred having me as a sub, we practiced my dominance less often. Honestly, I was initially hurt that Mistress could let someone else dominate her when she didn’t want it from me, but I soon rationalized it and stopped caring. I really wanted to tell her about my first week in chastity because we both had ‘firsts’ last week, but I realized Mistress needed the confidence to talk freely about her other sexual encounters without guilt or fear more than I needed to recount my own experience. After this first week’s events, Mistress told me she’d like for me to become a full-time slave since her submissive needs are now met elsewhere (they plan to meet every couple of months). Full-time chastity with releases at her discretion. Sex will be infrequent if it happens at all, along with full slave duties. I told her this is what I wanted too, and we kissed. We are super happy with our arrangement. I was let out for a few hours while we talked, then locked right back in again. I won’t see her until next Wednesday (which is normal; we usually only meet a couple of times a week). I’ve been told I won’t be permitted an orgasm for two months, and if I remain obedient, I can masturbate for her around Christmas. I nearly fainted. Mistress is my fantasy come true, and based on what she said today, I am hers. Two months feels like we’re jumping into the deep end again for a first lock-up (though I didn’t protest much!), but I’m already going crazy after just one week! Diving in headfirst worked well last time, so I’m riding this wave and enjoying it! I’d love to hear anyone else’s experiences with chastity combined with polyamory; the combination seems to work beautifully. Thanks for reading!