Hello everyone, this is my first real post after the introduction. I wanted to share some of my ideas and plans. It’s fascinating how a community like this encourages us to open up about things we might keep hidden from those closest to us. But as promised, here are my details.
I struggle with masturbation. Reading through these boards confirms I’m not alone in feeling this way. I’m in my late 50s and have been married for 33 years. I adore my wife, but lately, I’ve struggled to perform for her. Sex feels incredibly dull to me now. Honestly, I can bring myself more satisfaction than she does. Plus, I’ve had a passion for BDSM (primarily as the submissive) since before our marriage, though she’s unaware of the full picture. She has no interest in it; it seems like an inside joke to her. On top of that, I’ve strayed a couple of times, and again, she doesn’t know the whole truth. And naturally, she doubts me. Who could blame them? Men are often seen as scoundrels.
So, I want to have “the talk” with her, but I fear it won’t go well at all. I can picture the scene: Me: “Darling, I’d like you to put me in a chastity device for my own good.” Her: “Since when do you know about that? Are you cheating on me? Are you watching porn and jerking off behind my back? It breaks my heart. Maybe we should get divorced.”
Any Mistresses or keyholders out there, please weigh in—this is a genuine request for advice from someone who really wants to hear your perspective.
I’ve decided to purchase a device and have plenty of fantasies about how it will function. I settled on a classic birdlock design; I believe it’s quite artistic. It seems some men here think they are fantastic, while others consider them useless. The key factor appears to be the fit. I hope mine fits perfectly.
My work requires me to travel all week. My plan is to leave the key at the office so no one can unlock me and release myself for a nightcap in the hotel room. Then, upon returning home, I’ll remove it after ensuring I’ve avoided any “unauthorized” masturbation during the weekdays.
I will update this thread later to let you know how things go. I expect delivery of the device in about two weeks.
As mentioned, Mistresses and keyholders, please reply with your thoughts. Thank you.