Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

How many of you are using honor chastity successfully instead of caging? My wife and I had a short discussion about chastity. She loves that she is the only one who can give me an orgasm. However, she is not into a cage. She told me that she is glad I stopped using the cage at her urging. She thought the cage made her sad to see the parts she likes so much locked up. She prefers easy access and likes it when I get hard around her. This seems to be a much different form of chastity than those who are caged. It relies on my own will power rather than external enforcement. I would love to hear from others who share honor chastity with their significant other, Mistress, Master, or other “Keyholder”. How does this work into your dynamic? What ways do you enforce the chastity? Do you try to make him mess up or do you expect strict obedience? I’d just like to hear a little more from others on this form of chastity dynamic