Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I think giving a blowjob takes some effort, and given his status, she doesn't need to work that hard for it.

‘Repulsed’ might not be the right word; perhaps ‘inappropriate’ or ‘unnecessary’ fits better. When we first started dating, having him in my mouth was just part of sex and foreplay. In fact, I said I didn’t mind it because he doesn’t gag and it’s easy enough. Once she began taking control, they all but stopped—only a few times over the last four years. She believes her pleasure is his priority, and having him in her mouth does nothing for her personally, so it’s really not something we do anymore. I think I kinda gave them up when I told her that she was in charge. On a different note, being caged has its own unique hygiene drawbacks. I keep the area clean, but to say the smell and taste aren’t affected would be naive unless you always shower immediately before play.

For us, once I had 'the talk' with my wife (now my Keyholder) about chastity, WLM's and me being a submissive dynamic really changed. Oral sex is now given by me to her. I haven’t received a BJ in over 8 years; that ended the day she locked on my first belt. She informed me she would no longer be doing them. In the D/s world, I am the one who gives (a lot) of oral sex. As his Keyholder/wife/dom, she decided she wouldn't suck anything anymore. I miss BJs a whole lot but have never been happier finally being able to live as my submissive self. I cross-dress occasionally and wear panties 24/7/365. Life is wonderful. You might just need to get used to being BJ-free as your new norm of being locked up continues forward. Enjoy your chastity!