Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

It has been two months since my last orgasm. Aside from stepping out to wash in the shower, I have stayed locked continuously. My wife rarely shows interest in sex for herself; she allowed me to bring her over about a month ago. In bed, she sometimes rests her hand on my cage or offers a gentle tease every so often. I’ve mentioned that I crave an intimate moment, but I haven’t admitted how close I am to going mad without ejaculation. If she were keen for caged sex today, it would make me both happy and unhappy. My testicles are throbbing and my stomach is cramping from the lack of release. Crazy as it sounds, I remain torn about letting go. I’m certain that if I explain what’s happening inside her response will be, “No big deal. I don’t want you suffering. I’ll use my hands.” So why not just do that? Perhaps I should tell her because, much like the title suggests, I’ve begun to get irritable with her, and everyone knows that isn’t good. Argh-h-h-h-h! I really enjoy the tension of long-term abstinence.