My Keyholder and I aren’t your typical couple, and we’re curious if others share our unique dynamic and how they manage it.
I’ll begin from the start, hoping this doesn’t turn into an endless essay. I met my Keyholder LP at work where she can be quite formidable due to her outwardly dominant presence. Naturally drawn to that kind of woman without making a big deal out of it, our connection deepened as friends outside office hours. We’re both sexually open and eager to explore the unusual.
One evening over drinks, we started role-playing a D/s dynamic via WhatsApp while she prefers being dominated in bed; I took on the Top role for now. This evolved into me asking her to formally request becoming my Sub through an email.
She sent it, and we established some ground rules which put me well outside my comfort zone initially. We tested this setup for about a week before deciding to be honest with each other. Having already hinted at these preferences during our work interactions, she wasn’t entirely shocked when I revealed that I actually prefer being the Sub and enjoy dressing as a woman.
Before continuing, it’s crucial to understand we aren’t dating in the traditional sense because of her life circumstances; she has an IRL partner and a toddler aged two or three. While challenging, we both accept this reality: she won’t leave her current relationship, nor do I want her to, so we’ll never be a conventional couple.
Despite these constraints, we moved forward with her acting as my Domme/Keyholder. Rules were defined, including aspects of chastity. For nearly six months now, we’ve been engaged in an intermittent chastity game.
Because of her domestic situation, our meetings outside work are rare, and workplace interactions remain strictly professional without much scope for activity there.
LP is scheduling a piercing on May 21st because she intends to keep me permanently locked with release possible only at her discretion. We care deeply for each other and have no intention of letting this arrangement end.
Do others experience similar complexities, and what strategies do you use?