A recent discussion about finishing too soon got me thinking of this - I considered asking in that thread but preferred not to derail its main topic.
After denying myself for over five days up to a week, it doesn’t take much to push me over the edge. That outcome is perfectly acceptable on its own, yet my KH enjoys PIV intercourse. We have a strap-on which I use, but she occasionally prefers penetration with her partner, and I want the capacity to perform without sensitivity being an issue.
I know of several solutions for this problem, but I specifically want to focus on ruined orgasms. Personally, getting them right has always felt somewhat mysterious to me.
Specifically, I’ve observed:
When a ruin is done correctly, I do not “spurt” at all. It feels more like a steady leak or dribble. My erection remains rock hard and arousal stays high. Swallowing my cum, something I usually struggle with doing voluntarily, becomes very appealing; I enjoy the taste and texture greatly. Most crucially, there is no post-orgasm dropout in sensitivity. The feeling is pleasant but not as intense as a full climax. I can keep going afterwards, potentially having another ruined orgasm or even a real one later on, because my nerves aren’t so overstimulated that an immediate repeat would occur instantly. Thus, my endurance improves.
Then there is the improperly executed ruin, which I will simply call a bad orgasm. When this happens, I do spurt cum out, but the force is much weaker than in a full climax and the volume is lower too. It lacks the deep pleasure of a real orgasm while still bringing on that post-orgasm dropout and loss of drive/libido. I want to avoid these at all costs because they feel like such a waste of sexual energy. Afterward, my refractory period returns normally. My KH dislikes them as well; she would rather I have no climax at all than suffer one of those.
We’ve successfully used ruined orgasms before PIV sessions to boost my stamina this way. This allows me to act normal and reduces the risk of an accidental real orgasm during intercourse. Unfortunately, we end up with a bad orgasm just as often, leaving me unable or uninterested in continuing PIV activity.:/
I’m seeking any advice you can offer on how you manage to produce a consistent ruined orgasm regularly. The “edge and let go” technique is all I use currently, but it seems unpredictable. Sometimes edging five or ten times results in a perfect ruin; other times the exact same process yields a bad one. Any tips? Tricks?