Hi everyone, I’m in my 40s and happily married over twenty years with a few kids. Our sex life is good; no complaints from either of us (I think lol), but after more than two decades of family life, I feel we could add some new excitement to our lives. We are both dominant by nature, yet we yield when the other person cares deeply about an issue (though I give in a bit more). She is extremely competitive and independent; she likes sex, but I usually initiate it. A while back, I suggested she read something in the erotic genre, which she did after my persistent asking (Fifty Shades). The sex was amazing, and for that month, her drive actually exceeded mine. Whenever she read a chapter or two, she wouldn’t accept “not tonight” as an answer. Once she finished the books, however, our frequency dropped. This is why I believe exploring the chastity kink might be interesting. Within a relationship, it could lead to recurring conversations about sex in new ways. Has anyone else found this to be true?
I bought a cage and wore it while she held the key; she seemed to enjoy having control over it. It lasted for a day or so, and then again a few weeks later. I dropped some hints about continuing, but she seems too nervous to bring it up directly, often changing the subject instead. I don’t mind if she prefers something else eventually, as she has started getting into it and enjoying that little bit of control regarding sex. I found myself wanting to touch her skin or massage her hands constantly after just a few days locked up. It’s strange. I can’t predict how long-term it would be with her in charge or if she’ll take interest in the tease-and-denial aspect, which I really enjoyed and didn’t expect from me. Anyway, she probably saw my CM email on her phone when I signed up. So babe, if you are reading this while investigating that email (or maybe not), surprise!