Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello everyone, this is something I’ve been noticing that most keyholders seem to misunderstand. Whenever a new device promises near inescapability or cheat-proofing, I head over here to see what people think. Usually the discussion begins with some guy asking if it’s really secure and comfortable. There will be a few replies of yea’s or nay’s, but then there’s always a key holder who writes about how true security is mental, and that real chastity is about honoring your promise to your keyholder, since no device is 100% impossible to escape. While this holds up, I feel those keyholders are missing the point of wanting an “inescapable” gadget. We don’t want a cheat-proof tool because we’re anxious about cheating. It’s all about headspace. The more secure the device, the more powerless and controlled we feel, which is exactly what we crave. And the better secured it is, the more nurtured and loved we feel upon our release, knowing we couldn’t do it ourselves. Anti-pullouts are wonderful when they work. I am never willing to endure pain TWICE just to shoot a load. I see anti-pullouts and secure belts as the keyholder keeping me all for herself. “Isn’t that the point of everything?” you ask. Yes! But if I know in my head how easy it is to escape, even though I don’t want to and won’t, it isn’t quite as powerful. A secured device isn’t just about not cheating; it’s about KNOWING and feeling like you can’t cheat. Do other guys feel this same way?