Yesterday marked my 45th Anniversary and I was expected to reach an orgasm following three months of denial. My wife struggled to help me achieve it, and when I finally did try, I ejaculated but felt no pleasure whatsoever. It turned out to be a ruined one; however, the sensation seemed blocked, as if the joy were trying to rise in waves before being cut short by ejaculation.
The next chance for an orgasm is on Valentine’s Day, so I am wondering whether this issue stems from aging or from wearing chastity. Maybe I should ask my wife to allow shorter denial periods between releases, although she has mentioned that she would prefer if I never orgasmed again. Since she loves me, I assume she would let me try once more if I framed it as a health concern, but honestly, I am not sure I even want to go back. My desire for an orgasm only really kicks in during sex with her; after five years of prioritizing my wife’s pleasure, I have grown accustomed to that dynamic. I just hope others here can share their experiences with long-term denial. I’ve read accounts from men who returned to more frequent orgasms because those coming after many months were either unsatisfying or nonexistent.