I have to admit that I’ve trained my wife into an excellent key holder through positive reinforcement. She no longer harbors guilt over denying me an orgasm and will only allow one if it’s truly necessary for my well-being. In fact, she even keeps me locked up during our sex life. We haven’t had intercourse in more than 15 years, so that was already established during our BDSM and Poly phases. With Chastity—specifically the teasing and denial version we practice—there really is no other place to go.
I’ve always managed to keep things fresh for us sexually, which led me back to Domestic Discipline.
We had experimented with it before but paused so we could focus on teasing and denial. Similar to how I handle orgasm denial periods, my wife starts by delivering 10 solid whacks to my rear. You can look at my photo gallery to see the last time she disciplined me; today, I actually received 12 strikes using her lightest paddle. She also owns medium and heavy paddles, a cane, a crop, and two whips. Every few days, she administers slightly more whacks than before. Since she used to be afraid of hurting me, I don’t want to push her beyond her comfort zone too quickly. Like with orgasm denial, we are taking it one step at a time. Fortunately, she is already hitting full force now, so that part of the training is complete. I’ve already taught her how to use her various impact toys; it’s simply about her getting accustomed to disciplining me without feeling bad, just as we did with orgasm denial. Once she feels ready, I’ll step back.
I’m curious what others in Chastity do: FLR? D/s? Cuckolding? Etc.? Also, does anyone consider Chastity the primary fetish, or is there another that takes precedence?