I suffer from ED and need Viagra to get hard, though it’s still a gamble. My penis has shrunk significantly too. In its flaccid state, I can fit into a 1 1/4” cage, but when erect, I barely reach 4 inches. Back when I was younger and thinner, my length exceeded six inches; on that slender frame, it looked bigger than it actually was. I know gaining weight creates a fat pad that hides an inch or two of the shaft. Even after shedding nearly 50 lbs., there’s been no real change, and from what I’ve read, that padding won’t recede to its former levels.
So my wife is stuck with me—a sterile man who couldn’t give her children—with ED and a small penis. She has played around with it and edged me for ages, but as the years go by, achieving an erection gets tougher, leaving me with raw skin. She dislikes lubricants because they create messiness. After all these years of being trained to do without, I’ve mostly lost interest in reaching orgasm.
Today she announced that during sex she will keep me locked and only touch my penis when it’s time for release; even then, she might just tell me to masturbate after she steps out. Another surprise was her declaration that today is about her orgasm rather than our sexual act—that’s a new development too. I’ve just showered and found panties on the bed, so I assume she wants me to wear them. I’m unsure if this is merely an experiment or her permanent plan. Honestly, I prefer keeping my penis out of intercourse since it causes stress and anxiety about whether I can perform for her. My relationship feels more like what I had with her girlfriend: essentially S&M, where she only penetrated me three times in our fifteen years together. There was less pressure to perform compared to when my wife wanted me hard so she could hold onto my penis while using her vibrator.
Last week, she simply squeezed my balls and experienced a very intense orgasm, suggesting maybe that feels better than holding a soft member. We’ll see how it plays out. We’re always experimenting to find what works. We aren’t tied down to any single version of chastity.