For those of you who aren’t denied for long stretches, how do you handle chastity? We hear a lot from people who are rarely let out and even more rarely allowed to get off. What about the rest of us who are released fairly often but still stay caged?
I’ve ejaculated three times in roughly six days now. That doesn’t quite fit most definitions of chastity, but I realize our approach creates major unexpected challenges for me. Extended periods of being locked up create a constant background hum of arousal that seems to sustain many men here, and I understand it—I felt it during my own (relatively) long lock-ups. However, not having that buzz while still caged is its own completely different experience. Wearing the cage almost all the time when she isn’t using my penis—even if she uses it frequently—can feel harder. Especially when she does use me often.
I’m satisfied and sexually drained. Why do I have to keep wearing this? It’s a form of submission I wasn’t prepared for. When we started, I mentally braced myself for long denial periods, relying on that buzz to help me reach the next release. But I hadn’t anticipated being locked under her control while simultaneously receiving frequent use and ending up drained.
Long lock-ups reduce focus on the penis, which helps foster submission. Frequent use combined with consistent locking in between feels like it’s saying, “Focus all you want; you still have no control.” I find myself consistently more aroused. Surprisingly, I also crave small interactions to remind me of how little control I truly have, regardless of how often she makes me pop.
Hearing her confirm that what is hers will come out next week, next month, or in ten minutes if she feels like it—and until then it’s useless to me and must stay small and off-limits—is the greater tease. This dynamic has become a bigger challenge than simply enduring long periods without orgasm. These interactions replace the buzz that grows after longer denial.
Putting the cage on when my testosterone is very depleted is harder than I thought. I think this is why I push back so much: to make her reiterate that it’s not about how being locked or denied makes me feel. Her control isn’t derived from my lack of orgasm. It’s about me being forced to carry around her toy and be reminded often that it remains there, still fun, but not mine. Not useful to me. Even creating that buzz to justify the cage is something she doesn’t necessarily have to grant.
What do you think?