Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

chastity is whatever you want or enjoy what works for others might not suit your style; don’t expect everyone else to share exactly what you do. I’ve been around long enough to meet people at every level and everywhere in between. Kind regards, Chastiff

I began my journey into chastity as a form of bondage. It stayed that way with my wife for over a year. Later, we experimented with longer-term locking. My wife really enjoyed the power shift and how it changed us both. If it isn’t enjoyable for everyone involved, it won’t hold up.

With respect, if you send nothing back and don't engage in the playful teasing typical of a live chastity dynamic, what sets you apart from an expensive bank safety deposit box that merely holds a key? I'm not being rude; it seems to me their "idea" that these relationships involve interaction between the Keyholder (KH) and submissive is actually correct, no matter where they got it. What they get wrong are their expectations of your service. To me, chastity is 100% about the back-and-forth play between the KH and the locked man. If the men contacting you have this idea because of our site, then I’d say they received exactly what they should: a peek into the lives of people truly living in these relationships. That might not be your specific service offering, but with respect, if that’s true, it isn’t their concept of chastity that is wrong—only their expectations of you. I’m not saying many men view chastity merely as extended foreplay (which I agree isn't the main point). But claiming that men who expect "tease & denial," or interaction, have the wrong idea just doesn't make sense to me. To my mind, that’s nearly what it should be about. Locking the cock just adds entertainment. It seems to me they assume an online keyholder will try to mimic a real-life partner's experience. I believe their concept isn't flawed; it’s based on observing how actual life relationships work.

I think any good thing is give and take. Food that tastes great might not be the healthiest for you. Exercise is tough but beneficial. Locking up your penis and having someone deny orgasms means fewer of them, yet the teasing and euphoria surrounding it are amazing. If nothing were bad for me, I’d eat whatever I wanted; if exercise weren’t good for me, I wouldn’t do it; and I certainly wouldn't give up my orgasm without the promise of that heightened arousal from being teased. The anticipation can be as rewarding as the release itself. I understand some feel compelled to surrender orgasms, money, and gifts purely for self-sacrifice and masochism. Being a keyholder with a loving partner is work. It takes effort to keep taking initiative, figure out what makes us tick, and find that happy medium between denying pleasure and giving it. There are rewards in having attentive, happy partners. But there’s also effort required from the chaste one. Giving control, pride, and sexuality to even someone you love requires significant trust... plus, these contraptions aren't always THAT comfortable. So everyone has their own path, but I enjoy seeing so many here, including couples, exploring limits together. For me, teasing goes hand-in-hand with denial like peas and carrots!