I had originally agreed to my wife’s proposal of an eight-month denial. Our marriage doesn’t fit the strict D/s or FLR mold; instead, our chastity arrangement is a collaborative partnership where we set mutual goals and work together toward them—a method that has served us well for four years now.
This morning, I asked her if my next orgasm could be scheduled around Christmas since we aren’t exchanging gifts this year. We already have plenty of holiday items, and with me retiring next year, saving money is a priority. I proposed that the release itself serves as my present.
I suggested following that with Valentine’s Day for the subsequent one, then another in June, which would create a four-month interval between releases. Since nearly four months was my previous longest stretch, I feel this progression toward a full four months (and eventually six) is sensible. While she prefers an annual release, I am willing to accept two per year going forward.
I’m not chasing records or trying to outshine others; for us, it’s simply a fun sexual game that needs to work for both parties. We don’t engage in the elaborate fantasy lives online that some couples do.
We agreed on these target dates as our baseline, though my wife retains the right to add extra days if I annoy her each time. On those set days, either of us can choose to skip the release and wait until the next opportunity. I’ve noticed with long-term goals that my behavior often dips before we reach the date; she tends to forget what happened months ago, so extending the denial doesn’t always yield the results she desires. Plus, she genuinely enjoys giving me an orgasm because her happiness is tied to mine.
I don’t view women as inherently superior men, but rather equals. I don’t believe in constant obedience without limits; my submission has boundaries that keep things safe and sane for both of us. This approach has been highly successful throughout our 45 years of BDSM play, which has grown increasingly extreme over time. Four years is a short span for us given the ample time we have to work toward one annual release. At my age, I never know when this might truly be my last orgasm!:)
What about you?