I just want to bid adieu for a bit. My wife recently underwent surgery to fix a long-standing issue that caused her pain and limited our intimacy during sex. She spent two months recovering, and she finally experienced an orgasm in all that time—the first one without pain in over ten years. Last night, she had two orgasms and woke up asking me for mine as well. I told her that if it suited her, I’d like to stick with my plan until the end of the year.
She said she would decide while we were in bed. She teased me for about half an hour; I was on the verge of bursting, but she knew exactly when to stop. She convinced me I wouldn’t cum. Then she got out of bed, saying she needed to use the bathroom. When she returned, I pointed out that she had just gone before we started, and she insisted it wasn’t enough. So, back to the teasing. Suddenly, I heard her vibrator buzzing and felt strong pulses against my penis as she drove us both toward climax.
To be honest, I get better orgasms after waiting a week. My wife noticed this too. She remarked that my ejaculation didn’t seem empty; it was just less voluminous. My urethra burned, so there was some discomfort. It felt like a letdown after a month without orgasms—not even ruined ones. My wife looked at me and said she prefers when I orgasm once a week. Now that she is recovering and has had three orgasms in two days (not bad for an older woman), she wants to make up for lost time. She asked me to put chastity on hold until she gets tired of making me cum. Since we started this primarily for masturbation control, aiming to intensify my orgasms while allowing her to manage our sex life, I don’t see why not do what she wants. She is like a child with a new toy.
After decades without intercourse—mostly due to her previous relationship with her girlfriend—she no longer has that sexual outlet and can physically engage again. She still thinks penises are gross, but not so much when she is aroused. Although we aren’t doing oral or penetration yet, I think it’s just a matter of time. She wants my orgasms more than before, which is a good start.
It has been nearly a year of Chastity play. Ironically, this made my wife miss my orgasms even more. A lot depends on the funk she was in when we parted from her girlfriend. Our sex life changed completely; adjusting to it was a struggle, but chastity saved us. It gave us time out to restructure our sexual relationship. Before, we both had girlfriends to meet each other’s needs, and we have learned to do that without them.
It feels strange posting here with the CB6000 off. I almost feel naked and vulnerable. Previously, we had sex about once every three weeks; now it is two or three times a week. The only thing better than no orgasms is having many from your partner. If we don’t slip back into disinterest, this could be a wonderful journey. Thanks to everyone here. I used this forum to vent and organize my thoughts. It also allowed me to reflect on my sex life and realize that what I had was unique—I couldn’t duplicate it elsewhere: the love of two women, a hedonistic lifestyle trying everything we could, and a girlfriend whose husband approved of her splitting time between him and us. What are the odds? Yet it happened to me, making my life joyful.
Thanks for listening or not. The last year was full of contradictions as we searched for a new way to relate sexually. When most of your marriage involves two women in bed, becoming just a couple is something you have little experience with. I think we found our way.