Female led relationships discussion

Well, @BlueEyes is hard to keep up with in here. ha-ha, so I am sure that some of You have already heard that I have taken the device from him - for the time being - and maybe for good… After 5 months Where I have kept him on a very strict diet;-) - A diet he has welcomed, and a diet I have been curious to see the outcome of, - I decided too see what would happen if I took the device from him. Ripped him from the very thing that he for long has been associating his status with. What would happen? Was he transformed as he said he was while caged, or was it just sweet-talk? I wanted to know. And Yes, I am not running a female lead relationship based on toys, rituals ( not that many at least) and restrains, but from the very start when I gradually discovered the potential of this lifestyle and the revitalizing of our marriage, I have been fine tuning a kind of chastity lifestyle, that is not limited to playtime, but has been 24/7. An toys etc. can not be implemented 24/7 - only in fantasies … Try to understand. If this take on the lifestyle it was just during playtime, it would in fact be more consuming, time wise and mentally than a full-time setup. The very shift from one scene to another is very demanding - I have noticed! Oh, I wish I could do this in Danish, cause it is hard to explain, but @BlueEyes has - except from the first few weeks - been very absorbed and devoted, around the clock, in everything we do. Everything! I gradually adapted this way of looking at it, and to me - and from what I can read - we have been living a true Female lead relationship for more than a year now. Compared to many couples in here we are still quite young ( sorry- hi-hi), and possible looking at something like at least 25 years within this lifestyle ahead of us:-) Well, there is little twist, with Anne, but it seems to be working fine. And one day I think I would have to accept that she will be craving a full-time solo relationship, but we will always have a strong sweet connection I think…:-) Right now it works so well, so why worry now? We shall see… And she is so good at edging @BlueEyes, and shaving etc…:-) What I am saying is that I have put many thoughts into how I could see this lifestyle and all the bonuses that has emerged over time - endure 25 years and more. It has become a part of me. I will have to admit that I have become addicted as well:-) And I came to the conclusion that the mindset that goes along with many chasted men, was the key. To nurse the mindset, but still preserve @BlueEyes as the man I need in my life. Honestly I did not really believe in the first place that he would become so absorbed, so devoted and so satisfied, but he has been. He struggles - of course, but I can see that it is a sweet struggle…;-) The concept of permanent denial, that I found at bit cruel in the beginning, and maybe even nothing but a fantasy, has proved to be true, and the outcome has been way beyond my expectations. In my book I have had loads of bonuses from this lifestyle so far, and only a few drawbacks. I would have to admit that the device, has not always been my thing… But I accepted it as an necessity for him to endure and to connect to his apparently submissive mindset, and the steel tube I found quite esthetic:-) I have read in her that chastity without a device is called and honor system, - but Is that really what we have? Or is it something else? Something deeper perhaps? A special flavor of the honor-system at least, cause it is topped with strict permanent denial, extensive training in self-control, and plenty of sexual activity… I would like some inputs and thought on this, And also a fair opinion on the stability and potential future drawbacks, from someone who has been walking down this path themselves. The very fact that he has not questioned this last move, is somehow reassuring that I have not ripped him from his chastity dream. I might even have stimulated it further. XX Drewife